What CSAT-informed coaching is

Coaching is a non-clinical service built around four things: accountability, behavior planning, identity work, and a cadence fast enough to matter.

CSAT-informed means the structure and language draw on the CSAT framework — the same vocabulary, the same understanding of how these patterns run, the same seriousness about them. It does not mean the service is a licensed one. It is a non-clinical service, and what CSAT-informed coaching is not covers that side in full.

Accountability that is not your wife

One of the most corrosive arrangements in recovery is the partner as monitor — checking the phone, asking the questions, holding the whole thing together. It damages her, it puts him in the position of a supervised child, and it does not work.

A coach absorbs that role. Someone whose job is to ask the direct question on a schedule, who is not emotionally destroyed by the answer, and who is not owed an apology. That is a different conversation than the one happening at home, and both people usually feel the relief of it inside two weeks.

Behavior planning for the hours that matter

Most men here do not lack understanding of their own pattern. They lack a plan for Tuesday at 11pm.

Behavior planning is specific and unglamorous: what the actual high-risk hours are, what happens in them, what the access points are, what you do instead, and who you contact when the plan is under pressure. It gets revised constantly, because a plan built in week one for a life that changed in week six is a document rather than a plan.

Identity work

Underneath the behavior is usually a story a man has been telling himself for a long time — that he is fundamentally dishonest, that he is broken, that the version of him people know is a performance.

Identity work is the slower part of coaching. What kind of husband, father, and man are you actually trying to be, what does that person do on a difficult week, and how far is the current version from him. It is not affirmations. It is a direction, and it holds up under pressure in a way that rules do not.

Cadence

Two sessions a week, plus reasonable daily contact. That is the load-bearing feature of the whole service.

A weekly hour is a lot of time to be alone with a pattern that runs on isolation. Two contacts a week plus the ability to send a message at the moment something is happening — rather than reporting it six days later, already rationalized — changes what is workable. Full detail in structure and cadence.

What it costs

$4,500 per month, month to month. No superbill, because coaching is not a billable service.

Who it fits

Two groups, mainly: men whose situation is genuinely sub-clinical and men who have finished the Iron Ridge IOP and need continuity for the phase where the structure disappears. See who coaching is for and aftercare coaching.

It does not fit everyone, and we decline people rather than enroll them into something that will not help. Who coaching is not for is specific about that.

How it starts

A discovery call. It is free, it is a real conversation rather than a screen, and it ends with a straight answer about whether coaching is the right service for your situation or whether something else is.

See also: the men's track · the coaches · coaching vs. therapy

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