Betrayal trauma help for partners in Austin

What partners actually need in the first weeks

In the days and weeks after discovery, most partners are told to do three things: get to a support group, decide whether the relationship can be saved, and hold it together for the kids. None of those are wrong, but none of them are clinical care, and none of them address what is actually happening in your nervous system.

What partners need first is stabilization: an anchor in the middle of the chaos, a clinician who can name what you are experiencing without pathologizing it, and permission to not have every answer yet. That is what the first weeks of the Partner & Family Program are built to provide.

How the Partner & Family Program is structured

Currently, a weekly process group with other partners walking the same ground — not a general support meeting, a clinical group — and individual sessions as needed with a clinician trained specifically in partner trauma. The work is focused on the first phase of the APSATS model: safety and stabilization. Coordination with the man's IOP treatment team so that disclosure, stabilization, and any decisions about the relationship happen on a shared clinical timeline, not in isolation.

Your care runs on its own track with its own pacing and its own goals. The clinical work is not organized around whether the relationship survives — it is organized around whether you do.

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The clinical framework we use

Programming is delivered under the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM), the framework developed by APSATS and the most widely adopted clinical model for work with partners of sexually compulsive clients. MPTM treats betrayal trauma as a distinct clinical injury with its own arc — acute reaction, stabilization, longer-term reorganization — rather than as a symptom of someone else's disorder.

Care is led by co-founder Roxcy Brown, LMFT-Associate, CCPS-C (supervised by Billy Myers, LMFT-S, Texas license 201183), who trained in MPTM through APSATS and directs family programming at Iron Ridge.

Who this program is for

Partners of men currently in or entering Iron Ridge's intensive outpatient program. Partners who are trying to figure out what to do next, whether or not their partner is willing to seek treatment yet. Family members who are affected by a loved one's compulsive sexual behavior and want clinical support that is not a support-group meeting.

You do not need your partner's permission to start. You do not need to have decided anything about the relationship. You need clinical care, on your own timeline.

What it costs

If he is in the Iron Ridge program, your care is included in his fee at no additional cost. If he is not, whether he is in denial, in treatment elsewhere, or gone, the same eight-week partner program is available on its own for $5,000: currently a weekly partner group and individual sessions as needed with your own clinician, focused on the first phase of the APSATS model (safety and stabilization), with assessment at intake, week four and week eight. Private pay, with a superbill for out-of-network PPO reimbursement, and HSA/FSA funds may be used.

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Reading, in Roxcy's voice

Written and clinically reviewed by Roxcy. Start wherever feels closest to what you are actually looking at right now.